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Caresses of remembrance

Losing a friend is hard, even when the “friend” is a mug.

My friend is heavier than most mugs, so it didn’t crack when dropped during hand drying. Instead, the handle splintered into pieces.

The mug came to me 30-plus years ago. It survived a thousand uses, a thousand washings and the multiple purges that every household must mount to prevent mug clutter.

Oh, what a master of utility. Over decades, the mug served coffee but also hot tea and cocoa. Water. Juice. Those cold remedies for which lemony powder is dissolved in hot water.

And soup, cereal, ramen, ice cream. The mug’s inside bears countless grayish marks where spoons scraped the white surface, each scratch a prelude to something tasty.

We connect to some objects in this way, don’t we? To objects with little actual value but big-to-us emotional value. I have others – a handwoven coaster I made 44 years ago, an even older mug from college.

The objects’ value lies in memories, not the things themselves. Take those scratches inside the broken mug.

Not scars.

Caresses of remembrance.


Memories, more memories

Comfort cushion

One half of the teen muddle

Of old friends and old shirts

No jelly smears or butter blobs

Careening memories


A coffee mug story

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3 Comments

  1. Darlene H Olivo Darlene H Olivo

    I have so many such friends. Hate to let go of anything! Well done, Jeff.

  2. Carrie Kent Carrie Kent

    I enjoyed reading this. You are such a fine writer, Jeff!

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